One outside of the scene will look at this with perhaps shock, contempt, or disgust. It is much like any other type of relationship in our modern society. It is based on the simple foundations of any relationship. Honesty, Trust, and Love/Admiration.
Honesty is the first foundation in a relationship. This is something that every good solid relationshionship is based on including a TRUE Dominant and slave/submissive relationship. In society as a people we want people to be honest with us. We have a very basic want/need for others we interact with to not lie to us. We try very hard not to offend the people we surround ourselves with. Yes we all tell little "white" lies, in hopes to not to offend a person or offend a persons beliefs in a certain religion, political affiliation, sexual orientation. Sometimes the lies get out of hand and are no longer manageable and force or what we perceive to be force us to make lies to cover the other lies.
In a TRUE Dominant slave/submissive relationship there are no little white lies. It is brutal honesty. From getting to know the slave/submissive to getting to know the Mistress. The do's and dont's down to the last detail. There is a refreshing feel to this that so many relationships lack.
Trust is the second foundation in a relationship. This is something that every good solid relationshionship is based on including a Dominant and slave/submissive relationship. In society as a people we want people to be able to trust us, as well as trust others. We try so hard as a society to trust another person. However we sometimes expect others to trust us immediately. Trust does take time energy and an actual want to have trust in another human being.
In a TRUE Dominant slave/submissive relationship we learn each others limits. As a Mistress I take those limits and help the slave/submissive exceed and go beyond what he or she thought possible. The trust that is built by doing this makes each one in the relationship try new and different things. Another part of the trust is anonymity for some this is not an issue. There is a great deal of trust not to out a person because it can affect their job, life, family and friends. Not to forget depending on what the agreements between Mistress and slave/submissive are anonymity may or may not be important.
Love/Admiration is the third foundation in a relationship.This is something that every good solid relationship is based on including a Dominant and slave/submissive relationship. In society as a people we want people to love/admire us as well as to be able to love/admire another person. Without the first two items in this trio we can never hope to achieve love/admiration from anyone, including ourselves.
In a TRUE Dominant slave/submissive relationship we learn to have love/admiration for one another. Whether the Dominant admits it or not at the very least there is admiration for the slave/submissive weather it is a conscious or subconscious admission. Dependant on the relationship there may even be love. For me personally as a Mistress I admire my slaves and submissives. Why you may ask do I admire them it is simply this, without slave/submissive I would have no purpose as a Dominant. They are the reason we exist. They are the reason I love my job and what I choose to do as a profession.
So now that I have said all this I will get to the point of this blog post. This is an essay composed by Joe L. a young submissive I have taken under my wing. He has foolishly neglected to remember his place as my submissive. This is part of his punishment that I post his apology for public eyes to see. Doing this may seem cruel to the average person however any Dominant knows that it helps improve the Dominant submissive/slave dynamic. It reminds them of their place in the relationship and helps them to keep on track.
I’m writing the essay, because it was a punishment assigned to me by my Mistress. I was not prepared with my panties to please the Mistress. I did not do the tasks assigned to ..
me by the Mistress. When the Mistress asked me if I had done the tasks, I just told her, and she was furious. I have been a disobedient slave. My behavior was unforgivable. I must now learn the lesson.
This punishment will teach me that it’s not OK to displease the Mistress. Essays drill an idea into your head more than anything. The idea that I am not allowed to fail the Mistress or let her down. It is disrespectful to the Mistress. Writing an essay is a great way for me to learn lessons, and have a punishment really sunk into this thick skull of mine. This punishment is fitting, because I really hate essays, and I know how much Mistress hates me displeasing her. Mistress was right to punish me so harshly, I need to learn my lesson, and keep doing exactly what the Mistress has ordered me to.
I have been acting disobedient, and rudely towards her. This is wrong for so many reasons. She is my superior, and always will be. She treats me with love as her pet, and she deserves respect back.
I will be a better slave for my Mistress from now on. I will do everything that I have been asked to. No more will I be an irresponsible slave. I will be the best pet I can be. From now on, I will always show Mistress nothing but pure respect and honesty. She could disown me anytime she wants, so I need to give her a slave worth keeping.
All I have is desire to be obedient and serve Mistress. The reasoning behind my misbehavior was negligence. This is not good for how Mistress wants me to act. I don’t want to be a disrespectful slave.
I feel that a really hard spanking, and a lot of humiliation should be given to me to teach me a lesson. A slave should behave like a perfect little toy for their Mistress. A slave shouldn’t have a choice, only an action. A slave should respect Mistress at all times, and keep her happy in any way they can. I need to start acting more like a pet for Mistress, and less of a trouble-maker. All that really matters, is that Mistress gets what she wants. All that matters, is that Mistress is happy, and that I’m at her feet begging to entertain her.
My Mistress is a great Dom. She can make me feel humiliated and used. She can also make me feel loved, and secure. Mistress expects me to treat her with respect, and obey her, and she deserves it.
Mistress has a lot of power over me. I feel compelled to follow her requests. She is a big part of my life now, and I need to respect that. As a Dom, Mistress is definitely what I am looking for in a s/m relationship. Mistress always knows what is best for me.
The lesson of respect is without doubt the stream of wisdom satiating and underlying every act of the Universal law – in fact to the ordinary onlooker witnessing the exchange between Mistress and slave, the more they becomes aware of the emanating respect… the more they realise the significance, the virtuous nature of the exchange, that in itself reveals the depth in which Master and slave understand their responsibility. And respect is the cause for which the slave does not refer to their Mistress by name.
Some things are eternal signatures, signposts, of the cause for which the dance of domination and submission exists. To refer to the ruler of your soul as Master or Mistress is to keep in the forefront of your every intent the fluid lucidity of your surrender. Respect is what makes mankind cherish their existence. Respect is what teaches you not only to have the cake, but enjoy it. It is that which garnishes with translucent affection the quality of love. Respect is the most necessary ingredient in life, and for most of us, that which is dreadfully missed. We cannot enjoy the quiet walks, we cannot enjoy the sunsets, the people around us, the good and bad alike, we cannot cherish the land on which we live, the resources we so languidly exhaust, the monuments that represent our identity. We are lost because we have forgotten the meaning of respect.
I, Joe L., will never again displease the Mistress. I will follow every instruction of my Mistress word by word.
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